Let’s face it. Relationships can be tough, and even harder on your kids if you end up in a divorce battle, separation, or break up. I truly wish that I had listened to my dad’s advice and did as he did. He waited until marriage to have sex. While that is more like folklore and not as popular today. That is how God designed relationships, and sex for that matter to be. Like most things in life, hindsight is 20/20 and it’s better to try and learn from others mistakes than having to suffer the consequences from yours.
If you find yourself in this situation, please don’t feel down on yourself. You might have made the same mistake that I and many others have made (having sex out of wedlock). While I don’t condone this behavior. God can forgive you, and give you a second chance. The Bible states“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9). God can restore your purity and give you another chance if you allow him. For example, my wife and I actually had sex before marriage, but after repentance and several months of abstinence, we rededicated our relationship to God and waited until we were actually married. Can I also let you in on a little secret? Most women LOVE the idea of waiting until marriage! In fact, I will almost guarantee you she will respect you and your decision to do so more, and if not, she’s probably not the right woman for you anyway so just move on and trust God that HE will bring the right woman into your life. “Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man” (Genesis 2:22).
Now you’re probably thinking?? Why is this guy talking about God, sex, and relationships on a blog for dads that already have children? I’ll tell you the answer, and that is, What do you want your child to grow up and do? Make the same choices and mistakes you made, or better ones??… So whether you are in a relationship or thinking about getting into one. Do it God’s way. He is the one that designed relationships and how they and life works. If you’re in the Hampton Roads area we would love to have you join us in person or watch online here.
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