Men, Depression and Suicide: Where to get help

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Men and depression

 

Let’s face it guys. We have all been there at some point in our lives. feeling down and out. That life isn’t fair. That we got the short end of the stick. The list can go on and on. As a society from a very young age, it is instilled into us that “We’re men!”, ” Men don’t cry!”, and to “shake it off!”
  For example, I love the analogy that my wife often uses. You see two young children, both the same age, age 5, playing on the playground. Both fall down at exactly the same time and scrape their knee and both start crying. Who is the very first person that people start running to and checking on to see if they are OK and if they need anything? The girl right? But didn’t the exact same thing happen to both children and doesn’t both children feel the exact same pain? Of course, they do! Generally speaking, however, the boy is often told to simply “suck it up” and “shake it off” while we tend to and nurture the girl. So, from a very young age, I believe that is why men, in general, tend to hold in our feelings and don’t reach out and ask for help. There is absolutely nothing wrong for reaching out for help. It’s actually one of the bravest things that you can do!

 

Men and Suicide
Suicide rates not only in this country, but practically the entire world is extremely alarming. According to The World Health Organization  (WHO) estimates that each year approximately one million people die from suicide, which represents a global mortality rate of 16 people per 100,000, or about one every 40 seconds. Having to deal with legal and custody matters could only heighten one’s sense of hopelessness and feel like there is no way out. But, I’m here to tell you that there is hope and healing if you don’t give up!!!
 
Trust me when I tell you that I know how devastating and bad one can feel from not getting to see their very own child(ren). If you’re anything like me, I dreamed for years of having a child and then once I finally did the mother attempted to keep her from me practically every chance she got. So I know what it is like going months and even years without seeing your child as a father should.
It can be extremely devastating, depressing, and discouraging. I’m telling you this because I know and I care. This is one of the main reasons that I started Fighting Dads…I wanted to help other dads NOT have to go through what I had to. It wasn’t right, it wasn’t fair, and but for the Grace of God am I sitting here writing this to you. When I was in the midst of my custody fight, I felt like there weren’t very many people that cared. I felt ashamed, defeated and like a nobody at times. I fought and still fight bouts of depression even to this day. Life isn’t always fair. Good and bad times come…but good and bad times also go! Did you read that? They also go!! The key is to not give up hope!
 
No matter what it looks like or feels. Just don’t give up!! There is a popular saying that I love from the all-time baseball hero Babe Ruth, it goes “It’s hard to beat a person who doesn’t give up! ” And that’s life! Look at so many people that have overcome difficult situations. Everyone from President Trump to Job in the Bible. They faced the loss of family and finances only to go on and get everything which had been taken from them back. There are countless other people throughout history as well that just refused to give up! So don’t give up! Keep fighting! We believe in you and God believes and cares for you.

 

Summary

 

So, I want you, no matter how you feel. To reach out to someone and give them a call. If you can’t call then text. If you can’t text then email…Do something!!  And if that person doesn’t answer or care, keep calling and reaching out until you find someone that does. Because if I know one thing in this world it is that there are good people in this world that do care about you and cares about you greatly, no matter WHAT you are going through. What you are facing or going through doesn’t define WHO you are…That is WHAT you are going through. And people often think what they want to think so if they have a negative opinion of you then brush it off, let it go!

 

 If you are feeling alone and do not feel that you have anyone to talk you through, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. Feelings of depression and the desire to escape can be very overwhelming, don’t suffer alone . . . reach out. Your current situation is temporary, suicide is permanent. Don’t give up!!!

 

Faith Based Support 
If you feel you need more prayer, please call our Prayer Department Toll Free at 1-888-731-1000 in the U.S. or 1-714-731-1000 (international). Our prayer partners are available to pray with you 24/7.

Other resources

Suicide Prevention (SUPRE) – www.who.int/mental_health/prevention
Centers of Disease Control and Prevention – www.cdc.gov
Suicide Prevention among Native Americans – www.ihs.gov – click onto ‘Nationwide Programs and Initiatives’.
World Federation for Mental Health (WFMH) – www.wfmh.com

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