End Parental Alienation- A Father’s wish

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End Parental Alienation

End Parental Alienation: A Father's wish for Father's Day 2019

A Father holding his child, free of the effects of parental alienation.

A Father’s wish

This article  is for of all my fellow fathers, parents, families, dads, moms, and most importantly, our children. The ones who are dealing with a divorce or who have dealt with child custody and visitation issues like Parental Alienation. We are all far too familiar with the term “parental alienation.”  If you’re not familiar with parental alienation or it’s impact on our children and families, count your blessings. It’s the single most important reason I started Fightingdads and in my opinion, is the #1 factor as to why a father would choose to walk away from his child’s life or not be involved in thier child’s life whatsoever. That in and of itself should raise concern and more debate on the subject considering all of the U. S. fatherless children in homes statistics . So let’s put an End to Parental Alienation once and for all.

Parental Alienation, defined by Wikipedia the process, and the result, of psychological manipulation of a child into showing unwarranted fear, disrespect or hostility towards a parent and/or other family members. It is a distinctive form of psychological abuse and family violence towards both the child and the rejected family members, that occurs almost exclusively in association with family separation or divorce, particularly where legal action is involved. 1

The World Health Organization also known as WHO  recenlty revised and will be releasing the  ICD-11 on June 18th and has the verbiage under QE52.0 Caregiver-child relationship problem Substantial and sustained dissatisfaction within a caregiver-child relationship associated with significant disturbance in functioning. 2

The  WHO sets out the purpose of the ICD as follows:

“ICD is the foundation for the identification of health trends and statistics globally, and the international standard for reporting diseases and health conditions. It is the diagnostic classification standard for all clinical and research purposes. ICD defines the universe of diseases, disorders, injuries and other related health conditions, listed in a comprehensive, hierarchical fashion.”

Please join us and sign the Petition to Congress to End Parental Alienation

Sign the Petition Here!

We need 100,000 signatures in 30 days and Congress WILL get it in front of the appropriate policy experts, and issue an official response.3

U.S. Leading Experts on Parental Alienation

Well respected mental health professionals have expressed their concerns about the harm of parental alienation on children. The parents involed are also, often effected as well. So in this article, I’m asking for a special father’s day wish. Put an end to Parental Alienation and help our children and familes thrive and not survive.

        Leading mental health experts such as  Craig Childress Psy.D, Amy J. L Baker, Ph.D., and Edward Kruk Ph.D. have voiced their concerns to the mental health field. They have helped raise awareness by advocating for change on the topic of parental alienation. As the father of a child, like the hundreds of thousands of other parents, and a citizen of this great country. Am joining their voice for a cure to this pattern, which has been plaguing our court systems for years and damaging our most valuable resource for decades, our children.


Sign the Petition Here!

Is there a cure to End Parental Alienation?

While determining a “cure” for the alienating parent is something we will have to leave up to mental health professionals. The courts and our judicial system, however, have a fiduciary duty to protect the best interests of our children. It will ultimately be up to them to help curb this form of child abuse known as parental alienation.

One possible solution to the problem comes to mind after reading an article from Susan Heitler Ph.D., one of Psychology Today’s experts on parental alienation and that is therapeutic jurisprudence.

From her article,  We Need Changes in How Courts Handle Parental Alienation she sites a summary from an International Journal of Law and Psychiatry article by Philip Marcus, Judge (Retired) of the Jerusalem Family Court.

In his article “The Israel Family Court – Therapeutic Jurisprudence and Jurisprudential Therapy from the Start,” Judge Marcus describes radical innovations that have upgraded his country’s family courts’ functioning, making them less adversarial and more psychologically informed.

How therapeutic jurisprudence could be the cure to End Parental Alienation.

1.     The court system has developed a parallel team of social workers who assess every family law case.

2.    In addition, litigants do not hire their own evaluators; they are provided by the court from a list of people who have training plus extensive experience in assessment, treatment and domicile recommendations for divorcing families in general and alienating situations in particular.

2. The judge has judicial authority to make immediate decisions, aided by the advice of the court social services team.  The team members are highly skilled in assessing cases in which violence or other endangerment has been alleged.  Children must be protected from abuse of all types, physical and sexual and emotional as well as abuse via parental alienation.

3.  The combination of experienced judges and highly professional social work/psychologist teams results in a radical reduction in on-going post-divorce family disputes.

4. When subsequent disputes do erupt, the court again evaluates the family and makes an appropriate new ruling as needed.

5.  Judges are empowered to impose stiff sanctions, including fines and imprisonment, on any parent who does not follow court orders.  Immediate responsivity to blocked visitation rarely occurs in our current American family law system, to the major detriment of alienated children who can be left for months and even years with a parent whose alienating patterns cause ever-increasing psychological damage to the child.

6.  When an assessment of divorcing parents and their children suggests a pattern of alienation that will require treatment from a knowledgeable mental health professional, the social services team recommends referral to an expert, and helps define the matters to be dealt with.  This service is referred to as jurisprudential therapy.

7.  Collaboration between the judges and the social services team is built into the system so that judges can call on the services of the consultation team as needed, and the team can ask for judicial rulings on a similarly as-needed basis. A judge who refers a case to the social services team gives instructions as to the matters which need evaluation, consultation, and initial treatment. At the same time, the social services team can draw matters to the attention of the judge, matters which may not have appeared on the initial court documents yet arise during the work of the social workers with the family.

8. The court controls the procedures.  Rules relating to confidentiality ensure that the activities of social services team guard due process.

9.  The outcome: Speedier and longer-lasting resolution of disputes; restoration of proper relationships in the family; termination of costly litigation;  minimization of harm to the adults and also to the children.

Parents and fathers all around the world including  TheFathersrightmovement, which has over 500,000 followers on Facebook are advocating and want reform as well. Being involved in the current legal system regarding child custody and visitation for over nine years now, and having experienced it first hand and have seen the effects it has had on my child, not to mention family, friends, and more people than I can shake a stick at. There needs to change. Drastic change. The impact alone of parental alienation has on one child should be enough to investigate the matter further. Not to mention the thousands of other parents, courts, doctors, and society as a whole. It impacts the parents involved who have to raise the children afterward, and that is not in the best interest of the child. Let’s fight this together. We’re calling on our legislators to finally investigate, educate and work with mental health professionals as well as the family courts and put an end to this form of child abuse called parental alienation. Sign the petition today. 

It’s not about us, it’s about the children.


Other Articles from Fightingdads related to Parental Alienation:


  1. Wikipedia 
  2.  World Health Organization
  3. Whitehouse.gov/petition
  4. Psychology Today
  5. Fatherhood.org
  6. The Fathers Rights Movement 

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